Here is a new article I wrote on the Home Maker’s Corner. I hope that you will make the time to read this if you are a Christian woman. It is something that has been heavy on my heart and the Lord brought about a situation that forced me to get this said.
A Few Words to "The Mother Club"
on Behalf of the Hurting Ones Outside
1 Corinthians 13:4-5 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own...
Recently I read a blog post by a well-meaning lady who was addressing an important subject. She was debunking the "perfect family" ideal that has developed, thanks largely to Quiverfull, Hyper "Biblical Patriarchy" and Family Inclusive Churches. This is the ideology that large families are more special, more blessed, have better "quivers" and are generally more to be admired by Christians than small families. (And, let me say here that I have no problem with large families if that's what the parents want.) The attitudes of some become almost idolatrous, if not fully so. I was very glad to see her dealing with this subject as it is a serious issue. No mother should be made to feel like a failure or inferior because she "only" has one or two or three kids!
However - my heart was also very deeply hurt by this lady's article (which is one reason I'm not sharing the link or quotes). As I read her article I was so glad she was saying many of the things she said and yet so torn because of all the things she missed and even the things she was making worse and more hurtful for others. You see, for all her good intentions she totally missed the fact that mothers of small families are not the only ones that are hurt by the "motherhood IS our identity" ideal. She pointed out that women who are mothers to one or two or even adopted children are still "in the club" of motherhood. I sat there and grieved in my heart for all of us who are mother to none.